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Monday, August 23, 2010

Relationship Advice: Giving It Good

Written By: Princess Goosby—People who really love you do not want to see you hurt, they don’t want to be the bearer of bad news and often do everything in their power to avoid doing anything they think will cause you pain. There are exceptions to this rule. I am sure we all have them in our circle—the people who lack couth and will tell you whatever is on their mind, regardless of whether it holds any truth because if anyone should tell you it should be them. In their own way of loving you, they often make matters worse, pushing you a little closer to the edge of an emotional breakdown. Before you fall, they pull you back in with an infamous, “Dang girl, are you okay, you had me worried there for a minute?”

There are several truths (in my opinion) I think we should all know when facing crises and seeking advice. First, no one knows better than you do. This is where we take inventory of our situation and be honest with ourselves. Second, no one really knows—not even you. All we can do is proceed with caution, and use discernment. It’s our best shot at making sense of things. Last, stop loving with our eyes closed. How in the heck can we see what is going on if our eyes are closed? I am not sure if there is a formula for giving good advice, so I have come up with some suggestions instead, read them in Relationship Advice: Giving It Good.

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